In all these years
of my own research about life, I realize we all in a way are seekers of
something. What? I don’t know. Some of us are more curious than others, some
others afraid and some others don’t even care. But at the end, we all exist and
we are all part of this experience called life.
We read, watch,
and listen to so many ideas and advice about life, our purpose, what we are
supposed to do or not, how to have a meaningful life, a more successful life,
etc. But at the end that is all about perspective. What is it to have a
meaningful life? What is to have a successful life? We all have an opinion.
Some would agree with us and others not. At the end, does it really matter what
others think about us?
It is very
interesting for me to see that human beings follow exactly what we were taught
or we go the other way and do totally the opposite. Some of us continue a cycle;
others want to break it.
So perspective for
me is a big thing. What you might see as something totally acceptable I might
see as acceptable. The way we take actions to get to a point could be numerous,
and yet we will still get to that point. Is one way better than the other?
With my job as a
Life Coach, I am realizing that I really have to come from a place of non-judgment,
or how can people trust me? I am
learning about me in the process. I love the idea of how different we all are
and that we can embrace our differences. My job is not to agree or disagree
with you but to support you in finding your own truth coming from a place of
love instead of fear.
Many of us were
taught that in order to get something we have to do something. We all heard all
kinds of different phrases like work hard and you will do well. “Take risk and
you will see fruit.” “Fake it until you make it.” “Get out of your comfort zone
and you will succeed.” “In order to love you need to sacrifice.” “Life is not rose-colored.”
“Life is tough.” “No pain, no gain.”
I also have seen
people that work pretty hard and did not do well. Some people took risks and
yet did not see the fruits. People faked it and never made it. Some got out of
their comfort zone and never succeeded, and ended up even worse. Some found
love without the sacrifice. Some had a very easy life with no traumas or issues.
And others just as magically got what they wanted with no pain.
Again, it is all
about perspective. What was traumatic for one person maybe was not for another.
What was a failure for one was a success for the other. So how can I help
people and how can they help themselves?
What if you just
have to be your TrueSelf?
What if life is
just there for you to enjoy and just be?
That is exactly
what I decided to do, to be my TrueSelf. Being your TrueSelf or not comes with
consequences. Sometimes we are willing to face them and other times we are not.
Sometimes we even prefer not to be our TrueSelf just because the consequence
can feel very uncomfortable. And you know what? That is okay.
To give you an
example of what being your TrueSelf means that is totally different from
someone else’s TrueSelf, here it goes:
When I go for a
job interview, I am just my TrueSelf. I tell them exactly who I really am, my defects,
my weaknesses, my strengths. I tell them I hate sales. I tell them that my
English is not good. I tell them that I like an easy job. Even with that, they
hire me, which it has been a surprise for me. But I am convinced it happens
because I am my TrueSelf.
On the other hand,
a friend of mine tried the same as me, thinking that it might be a good tactic.
So he tried. He came back from his interview saying that it did not go well.
Obviously it was not going to go well because his TrueSelf really loves having
a typical interview when you say the good things, when you are formal, etc.
So being your TrueSelf
will get you where you are supposed to be. Pretty much being your TrueSelf will
manifest the life you deserve and want without even, in some cases, doing
anything about it.
I just had an
experience a few months ago with my business. I tried to follow advice from my
friends, what a book told me, what a webinar suggested, what a business coach
said, what people expected of me, etc., etc., etc. And guess what? No business
came from that.
How did my
business come? When I became my own Life Coach and did what I tell people: to
be their TrueSelf. I became just me, Mary, without a mask. Mary the
comfortable. Mary and her silliness. And guess what happened? I made my first
thousand dollars with just 3 people working 3 hours a week in 4 weeks.
Did these people
come from all my advertising efforts? Not really. They were just there. They
came as a magnet. I manifested them.
So does that mean
in order for you to be successful that you just don’t move a finger and it will
happen? No. Just do what your TrueSelf tells you to do, without a mask, with
your real energy, with the energy with which we were created. If you love
sales, go for it. If you love being a goal-oriented person, go for it. If you
love spending hours creating a plan, that is totally fine. Just ask your best
coach, your TrueSelf.
For some of us it can
be easier to know who our TrueSelf is and for others not. That is when I come
to support people in understanding their TrueSellf and to discover the
happiness within. If you like this blog or know someone who can benefit from
it, please share my information.
Being your
TrueSelf will open the doors of the divine for you. Trust and let go.
Me
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